{"id":23,"date":"2018-04-01T05:25:55","date_gmt":"2018-04-01T05:25:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/?p=23"},"modified":"2018-04-01T05:51:09","modified_gmt":"2018-04-01T05:51:09","slug":"parenting-git-gud-edition","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/?p=23","title":{"rendered":"Parenting: Git Gud Edition"},"content":{"rendered":"

Parenting is this super weird thing that cannot be likened to anything else.\u00a0\u00a0 Sure, there are other situations that are analogous, but nothing is completely the same.\u00a0 You and, hopefully, your partner are responsible for turning this little uncoordinated, babbling, poop-factory into a productive member of society.\u00a0 If all is done correctly you do this with as few nurtured mental issues as possible.\u00a0 How to do this, and what are the best methods are all in the rub, as it were.\u00a0 There\u2019s countless blogs (oh, the irony<\/em>), magazines, and other publications about what the current trends are to create the best human possible.\u00a0 Through the eyes of a new parent this is all very daunting.\u00a0 At the end of the day it all leaves you with a sense of inadequacy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure we can all relate; our parents weren\u2019t perfect.\u00a0 My upbringing was no different, it took me quite a while to work through any lingering angst I felt for my parents.\u00a0 Hindsight is always 20\/20, and I\u2019ve managed to work out most if not all the why\u2019s.\u00a0 My parents had to make some tough decisions, I may not have understood them at the time but now I understand.\u00a0 To top it all off I don\u2019t think my younger self would have fully comprehended the reasoning behind it all.\u00a0 So here I am, putting together my very own C.S.I. episode about my life, trying to do my best to put all the pieces together, and come out with a better understanding.<\/p>\n

I told you that to give you a preface to where all my future \u2018Parenting\u2019 posts are coming from.\u00a0 I could go in to detail about my childhood, but I doubt that will ever make it here.<\/p>\n

When my wife was pregnant with our first child my brain went haywire trying to culminate all the what-ifs, how\u2019s and whys.\u00a0 As we neared the third trimester I really settled down and was able to formulate more of a plan.\u00a0 I got over the initial sticker shock of what this was going to do to us fiscally and began to think about how we as people operated and how we we\u2019re going to work around being parents.<\/p>\n

Like many new parents, I took to the internet to start reading about what to expect and how to handle it.\u00a0 Spending many nights up past my bedtime scanning through headlines like \u2018Top ten Parenting Tips<\/u>\u2019 and \u2018How to raise your first child<\/u>\u2019.\u00a0 I was bewildered with the sheer volume of the people putting forth their opinions on how to handle a child.\u00a0 The problem with so many of these was that they were more focused on their ad revenue and less so on the actual content.\u00a0 Then, the \u2018A-Ha!\u2019 moment happened.\u00a0 These ad-laden sites were there because of analysis of searches, meaning that lots of people were searching for parenting tips.\u00a0 Which means that no-one has the answers that I sought.<\/p>\n

Armed with this I still looked, now I was looking at literature that the hospital had pointed us toward.\u00a0 Thinking they should know better, right?\u00a0 Nope, hospital pamphlets were chock full of recommendations that had absolutely no research to back them up.\u00a0 So, now what was I to do?\u00a0 I felt like I knew less about being a parent having read all the publications.\u00a0 Then another moment of clarity hit; There is no one-size-fits-all guide.<\/p>\n

Well, now what?\u00a0 I had a few conversations with other parents, they didn\u2019t have answers either.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t until speaking with my Mother-In-Law who gave the best bit of advice I could have ever gotten.\u00a0 \u201cInstructions come with the package.\u201d\u00a0 To elaborate on that a little bit, \u201cInstructions come with the package; You\u2019ll figure out what language they\u2019re in.\u201d\u00a0 And that\u2019s it; the Rosetta Stone for parenting.\u00a0 It has nothing to do with what some article tells you to do or what some check-out lane magazine says.\u00a0 There aren\u2019t answers to the questions, and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

Moving forward it\u2019s more about taking a more logical approach to what the child needs.\u00a0 This became more apparent when nurses asked if we would like to test for Down\u2019s Syndrome.\u00a0 There was a small risk involved with the test which made me adjust the terms of the test.\u00a0 Since the risk was a terminated pregnancy, I had to ask if there were any outcome of the test that would cause us to willingly terminate the pregnancy.\u00a0 Since my wife and I are both reasonable human beings that answer was a very quick \u2018No\u2019 we opted to not take the test.<\/p>\n

2 years down the road my son is mostly polite and thoughtful.\u00a0 Understands sharing as much as a 2-year-old only child can and has developed into an awesome kid.\u00a0 All attributed to my wife and I making good decisions in the developmental process.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Parenting is this super weird thing that cannot be likened to anything else.\u00a0\u00a0 Sure, there are other situations that are analogous, but nothing is completely the same.\u00a0 You and, hopefully, your partner are responsible for turning this little uncoordinated, babbling, poop-factory into a productive member of society.\u00a0 If all is done correctly you do this … Continue reading “Parenting: Git Gud Edition”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10,6,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-imo","category-parenting","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=23"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=23"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=23"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gypsynet.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=23"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}